A friend of mine asked, generally, "What goes through a guys mind when your first talking to them?" She knew sex was a given, but wondered if there was a specific list. I told her the honest truth. "It all depends on the type of guy he is." Vague, but true. Being that I have been all kinds of every guy in my lifetime, I broke it down even further. There's a guy who wants to fuck you, immediately, but will try to be patient and take his time with you. Let's call him the
heart breaker. Doing everything you want (dates, etc.) until he gets his chance. He'll do the extreme. Meet your family, befriend your friends, and sucker you into a relationship. He'll even go so far as to tell you he loves you....if it can get him some pussy. Which often results in
"Man, that bitch crazy!". I'll elaborate more on that statement later. In real life he's fucking other chicks until you're ready. Then you have the guy who's sweet and sensitive and is genuinely attracted to you. Sex is the furthest from his mind because hes interested more so in your MIND. Let's call him
Mr. Right. You can tell him by phone calls, and texts when he says he will, also by the style of conversation. Has he mentioned sex at all within knowing you three weeks? Often not. If sex is brought up he will change the subject, simply because he isn't interested in that aspect of you yet. This is the guy most women THINK they want. By the end however he's too emotional for you and can be portrayed as 'soft'. Then there's the guy who wants to fuck. Bold. Out there. Plain and simple. Cut and dry. He's the reason all men are mislabeled "
Dog ass nigga". Hell, He'll tell you from jump himself. In fact, he believes if he doesn't fuck you or get head on your first encounter, then you're a waste of time to him. On to the next. This guy has issues from past relationships which causes his tolerance and trust in the opposite sex to be null and void. Initially, not necessarily for the sake of my daughter, but I hindsight I'm glad I did, I have been all of the above men. Some men are a mixture of the aforementioned, some are just one. Being that I have been all of the above listed, my daughter will know what to watch out for. I'll start in reverse order.
The
"Dog" as women so vehemently call him, was made this way because he was once Mr. Right. He had been taken advantage of one too many times. Treated like shit by women he's loved, and tolerated it only because he wanted them to be happy. After losing trust for all women he became the ultimate asshole. This works in his favor, simply because 90% of the time, women like assholes. He's primal. Lets sex be the end all be all. Nothing more than wondering where the next mouth or new pussy is coming from. He could be an no good unemployed stay at home nigga with a few baby mommas, or he could be a semi wealthy, well respected businessman. The attitude toward sex in general is the easiest way to spot him. Many women think all men are like this, but they misconstrue.
Mr. Right, he's laid back. Respectful. He was raised to treat a woman correctly and comes from a good upbringing. This is the guy most women think they want. He's often too sensitive for many womens tastes. Not to the effect that won't defend them when time permits, but that he's overly emotional in the relationship. Some women feel as if they are the man and he's the woman. He cares for them more than anything. Sacrificing everything for the sake of their happiness. Sometimes heart breakers or dogs fall into this category when they see the big picture. No one wants to be alone for the rest of their life. If he was a heart breaker, he'll deal with all bullshit a woman outs him through, sacrificing his manhood, simply for Karmatic effect. He feels he must go through this to atone for all the wrong hes caused in his life. The same for the dog. In the end he ends up alone because he doesn't have that edge that women want.
Now for the
Heart Breaker. Mr. I'm going to do or say whatever it takes to fuck THAT particular woman. This is often the cheater in a relationship. He's the most extreme. No matter what it takes, he's going to fuck you if that's what he wishes. Even if he has to make you his girlfriend and be with you for months or years. This is the real snake. The one who sends you head over heels, then when he's had his fill, he drops you. Which often is the case when he shouts to his boys, friends, and the police "Get her! Man, that bitch crazy!" I'm not saying every woman is insane. Often times she isnt though. Its not her fault, all she did was love and care for someone who constantly let her down or gave her the world only to snatch it from beneath her. You sir, caused this on your own. There are certain things you don't say/do to get what you want. Especially if you can't or have no plans to deliver on it. This causes a woman to lose it or be "crazy" as you put it in most situations. Sometimes though, the bitch really is just crazy lol
At any rate I just wanted some clarification to be had, simply because I'm tired of good guys getting bad raps from women based on unfair generalization. This blog is for women single or in a relationship, but also for dudes who may be struggling for questions as to why women act how they do or what kind of man they are. Everyone wants to be perfect for someone in one way or another. I guess the right formula has to be figured out. Be leery of your actions however, you may cause the opposite reaction of what you're looking for. It's possible for men to make their own decision of the kind of man they want to be, but if treated a certain way by a woman....he may become something else. As many of my reader may want to know, "You said you were all three at one point, which are you now?"
I guess.......you'd have to ask my girlfriend after she's read this blog. [:
